RSS

Tag Archives: heal

Healing from Shame

Image result for free images of praying for help

God wants us to have a right understanding of self. When we let Him heal us, He gives us that understanding. Those who know me and my testimony are aware of my past abusive relationships. There were times that some would say to me, “No one can make you feel a certain way, it is up to you if you choose to feel ashamed or hurt or guilty.” To a point that may be true, but when you share your life with someone who repeatedly says abusive things to you and/or repeatedly physically abuses you, you will start to believe those things are true and that you deserve to be treated that way. When we decide that we do not deserve that treatment, and stick close to “the one who is closer than a brother,” and His Word, He will bring us up out of those relationships and lies that we end up believing about ourselves. God does not want us to be hurt by others and I do not believe He wants us to stay in those kinds of relationships.

Guilt is a God-given emotion that takes place when our mistakes and faults are revealed in our own minds or publicly exposed. It may be a personal reminder of our own limitations and sinfulness.

Shame, however, says that the individual person is bad, of no value, or unworthy to exist–that we are hopelessly abnormal, unlovable, of no value, and worthless. Shame begins externally with a subtle implication through silence and neglect or with verbal condemnation through words of abuse. When such messages are repeated often enough, whether through words or actions, they become internalized into a false belief about ourselves: “I must be bad to deserve such terrible treatment.” This becomes the heart and soul of our identity and the beginning of thousands of future, wrong choices for the one who is suffering from shame.

We can begin to heal from our shame when we identify and confess the lies that we have believed about ourselves. Then we must start to replace those lies from satan with God’s Biblical truths. Truths about who God is and who we are as His beloved children. We are of immeasurable worth in God’s eyes, righteous through the blood and Jesus and, therefore, without condemnation.

Romans 8:1 “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.”

Romans 8:31-39 “What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God’s elect? It is God that justifieth. Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

II Corinthians 5:17, 21 “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new…For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.”

Sometimes when we have been victimized over time, we become so shame-filled that we are emotionally bound by that shame, even though we may think that we mentally understand our worth in God’s eyes. Or, if we have actually committed shameful acts, a deep sense of shame may remain even after confession and repentance. Those acts, by others and/or by ourselves, must be brought into the presence of Jesus, and perhaps more than just one time. We need to remember that we suffered the abuse over a period of time, and it will not just go away suddenly. Ultimately, only God brings full emotional cleansing and freedom from such bondage.

I know that I would not be where I am in my walk with Jesus today had I not made the decision to leave the abuse relationship and cling to the Lord. There truly is a light at the end of the tunnel if we only trust Him.

 
Leave a comment

Posted by on August 23, 2019 in God's Love

 

Tags: , , , , , ,

Got Problems? Seek God’s Solutions!

You say, “What do you mean, Got problems?! Of course I’ve got problems. Don’t we all?” Well I guess it’s all in our perspective. Sometimes what we see as problems are just God’s way of bringing us through an experience to teach us to be more like Him. I am understanding more and more as my days go by, that if God is allowing a challenge in my life, it is because I need to learn something about Him and therefore, I am more able to become more like Him, and be more able to help others in their need. I can crawl within myself and have a pity party or I can ask, “What are you trying to teach me today Lord?” If we are truly saved by the Blood of Jesus, we will see as we mature that life is full of lessons to draw us nigh to Him. We can wallow in self-pity and never mature in our Walk, or we can seek God and ask Him what His solutions to these problems are.

The first step in overcoming problems, whether they are physical, emotional, or spiritual, is to admit to ourselves that we are in need and that we desire a change. Jesus asked the man who had been lying by the Bethesda pool for 38 years a very important question: “Wilt thou be made whole?” In other words, “Do you care enough about your problem to do something about it–even if it requires on your part some action, effort, sacrifice, or even suffering?”

As is typical of so many in need, this man answered the Lord with self-pity. When Jesus sees us in need of help and He sends a willing person to help, do we play the martyr role? “There is no hope for me. Nobody loves me.” The person who clings to this attitude is unlikely to experience healing.

Because Jesus is gracious and He knows our deepest desires, He often cuts through our weeping and self-martyrdom and puts us to the test. “Get up,” He says. “Take your problem and move on. Do not wait for other people to pity you. Get up.”

If we are in need of a touch from the Lord, we must ask ourselves if we are so eager to be changed that we are willing to do something about our situation. When we let God know we are obedient to His will and we are eager to do whatever it takes for us to be whole, He will send Jesus in the form of a person, a verse from His Word, or a new thought in our minds. We must act upon what God tells us to do. He made us, and He knows how to fix precisely what is broken within us.

Finally, when we feel God’s power bring about positive changes in our lives, we must not let doubters convince us that these changes are only coincidental. We must walk firmly away, as did the man with his mat under his arm, and simply say, “Jesus healed me.”

John 5:1-15 “After this there was a feast of the Jews; and Jesus went up to Jerusalem. Now there is at Jerusalem by the sheep market a pool, which is called in the Hebrew tongue Bethesda, having five porches. In these lay a great multitude of impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving of the water. For an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had. And a certain man was there, which had an infirmity thirty and eight years. When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole? The impotent man answered him, Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool: but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me. Jesus saith unto him, Rise, take up thy bed, and walk. And immediately the man was made whole, and took up his bed, and walked: and on the same day was the sabbath. The Jews therefore said unto him that was cured, It is the sabbath day: it is not lawful for thee to carry thy bed. He answered them, He that made me whole, the same said unto me, Take up thy bed, and walk. Then asked they him, What man is that which said unto thee, Take up thy bed, and walk? And he that was healed wist not who it was: for Jesus had conveyed himself away, a multitude being in that place. Afterward Jesus findeth him in the temple, and said unto him, Behold, thou art made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee. The man departed, and told the Jews that it was Jesus, which had made him whole.”

 

 
Leave a comment

Posted by on July 4, 2016 in God's Love

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

 
%d bloggers like this: