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How to Endure Suffering No. 3

Fellowship Church- Grapevine, TXWrong Way No. 3 – Withdraw from Others

The past three months have been quite a test for me as I am healing and growing from the loss of my mother. I shared in my last post that in my past, I have gone away from God during trials and tribulations. A part of my turning my back on the Lord included pushing people away as well. I stopped going to church and fellowshipping with my family of God. We all know that the alternative is to go the way of the world. That just brings depression, guilt and shame.

I can say from experience that our times of suffering are much more bearable if we stay in communion with our born again brothers and sisters. The sincere hugs and “How are you? I am praying for you.” have helped strengthen me and have given me hope that there is, indeed, “a light at the end of the tunnel.” Many of them have gone through the loss of loved ones, and God has placed them there to encourage others. That is what our family is for – when one is down, the other lifts him up.

I really did not think much before about how deeply God loves me. It has become more obvious to me as so many times the message has words that I am convinced are just for me. ;-0 They are loving and nurturing words that only my Heavenly Father knows that I need to hear. There are times that I have to make myself go, but when I leave I feel truly lifted up. There are moments that I experience much joy while I am passing through this time of sadness, and I feel such gratitude to my Jesus for His times of peace that “pass understanding.” Instead of going the way of the world this time, I am truly experiencing His holding me up, and the moments of sorrow are not so dark anymore.

Suggested Right Way:

Keep fellowship with believers, Hebrews 10:24, 25 “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”

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Posted by on August 3, 2012 in God's Love


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How to Endure Suffering No. 2

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Wrong Way No. 2 – Withdraw from God

It has been a pattern with me in the past to turn away from God when faced with crises in my life. Some times it was because I listened to the lies from the devil that I am no longer worthy to serve God. When I went through my divorce, I went away from the Lord one step at a time. I stopped serving in the church choir, then I stopped helping with the youth group, and I gave up teaching the precious 2nd grade Sunday School class. I eventually left the church, and I regret to admit that I came to a point where I could not pick up His Word and read it nor bow to Him in prayer.

Well, I have come to learn that none of us is worthy except by the work Jesus did at Calvary. I gradually followed Jesus’ sweet promptings back to His loving, gracious arms. I now understand that it is not He who turns away from me when I cannot feel His presence, but me who has turned away from Him. My prayer is, “Lord, please let me never go away from you again, no matter what happens.”

At other times, my turning away has been by crawling into a liquor bottle to numb and self-medicate from anger and pain of past wounds, while questioning, “God, how could you allow this woundedness from others?” He has taught me that I must trust Him without question. I am understanding more with each trial that it is all a part of the bigger picture. This life is just preparing me for my life with Him in eternity. It is up to me if I stay the course and keep my heart focused on Jesus, or if I choose to believe evil’s lies and go the way of the world. I have cried tears of repentance for the time that has been lost while going my own way, instead of living for Him. I can never get those precious days back, but my vow is to never lose any more.

I just finished reading Job. God never revealed to Job His reasons for allowing the horrendous losses and heartache he experienced. It was revealed to me during this reading that God reminded Job of all that He had created because He was saying to him, and would say to each of us, “You believe that I am God and that I have power to accomplish all these things. Why do you not trust me with every aspect of your life?” If God is allowing some trial or challenge in my life, He promises that He will lead me through it. God cannot lie, so I am learning to just trust Him in ALL things. Is it difficult to remember this in the midst of the trials? Yes, but that is why I must stay in His Word and commune with Him daily. I am experiencing recall of His promises that I have read, and I find that the Scriptures He brings to my mind fend off evil attacks.

Suggested Right Way to Endure Suffering-from God’s Word:

Acknowledge that He is with you, Hebrews 13:5 “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” WHAT A COMFORT THOSE WORDS ARE! He said them and He cannot lie.

Pray all the more, 1 Peter 5:6, 7 “Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

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Posted by on July 21, 2012 in God's Love


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How to Endure Suffering

I recently decided to approach my daily Bible reading with a plan I found on the Blue Letter Bible website based on the chronological order of God’s Word. I am now reading in Job (yes, more of God’s perfect timing, right?)  🙂 which is the next order of events after Noah and the flood. In my study Bible, in the Book of Job is a chart on what the Bible says about “How to Endure Suffering.” I have learned that the best way I am able to apply what I read to my life is to write about it or share it with others. If this study may help someone else along the way, Glory to God for that. I know that it is indeed growing me in this temporal journey on this earth.

There is a list on the left side of the chart of the wrong ways to endure suffering. I told my husband that, “Gee whiz, I believe I have done every one of those wrong things on that list. Now, I wish to learn God’s right ways of getting through this season of my life. I will study the list on the right side of this chart from God’s Holy Word.”

No. 1 Wrong Way – Demand to know WHY. Boy, when my mother was in the hospital fighting her battle to stay alive, I lost count of how many times I asked God why He would allow this sweet Child of God to endure such suffering. Then when she died, I asked why all her fighting seemed for nothing. Although I believe that it is natural for us in our human flesh to ask why when we witness suffering or when we go through it ourselves, it did not comfort me, nor did it give me the answers I longed for.

I have gotten to the point where I no longer care why any of it happened. I know that Heaven looks much sweeter to me now. 🙂 Another thought that comes to my mind is, “Why not? Must I only accept the good in life and not the bad?”

One of God’s suggested right ways to endure suffering is found in Romans 8:28-30: “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.”

Now that I am past asking God why, I take much comfort in being content to know WHO is in charge. How it blesses my soul to know that God “foreknew” me and called me to be His child. Since I chose to answer His call and receive Him as my Lord and Saviour and to be justified by His Son, I will one day be glorified with Him. I can be content in the fact that, yes, I will go through trials on this earth, but look WHO has me in His hand and is preparing me for the future glorification in Heaven with Him and my saved loved ones.

When I saw this Scripture on the right side of that chart as the Right Way, I understood why God had brought this very word to me in the midst of the pain, but I did not let it sink in at that time.

Next time: wrong way: Withdraw from God

May - King James Version of the Bible.

May – King James Version of the Bible. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Posted by on July 18, 2012 in God's Love


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